2009年2月16日           星期一

今天在回西安的飞机上在过期报章上看到一侧报道：“明星外流”在中国内地引争议。报道说中国很多美丽又著名的女演员纷纷离开故土到国外发展，有的甚至加入了外国国籍，这在中国各大网站的论坛上激起了强烈的批评。

个人觉得网上这些激动的批评很有意思。与其辱骂和批评别人，为何不反问是什么原因令这些“美女”宁可放弃祖国国籍也要加入外国国籍呢？打个比喻，一个人在自己家里如果是过得幸福快乐，被父母家人关心疼爱，他会到别人家去寄人篱下吗？他会去认别人作父母吗？如果家里只有一人“离家出走”，那可能是个人问题，但如果出走事件在一个家庭里接二连三地发生，会不会是这家有问题呢？是不是父母专制不讲理，还是父母偏心或不关心子女？不要一味的说别人的不是，先自我反省吧！

换个角度想想，如果这些在网上批评别人的人也得到了类似的“出走”机会，他们会不会也选择“到外发展”呢？还是会放弃机会，保持现状？这些人都不“崇洋”吗？都不“拜金”吗？哦，是的，他们不会的，他们可能也没这机会！所以他们永远是高尚的！

2009年1月29日           星期四

这农历新年回家，闲着没事翻了翻房里一箱箱的旧东西

翻开旧相簿，想起当年的自己

这几年在外面跑动，经历的虽不是什么大风浪，也没遇到什么大挫折

但究竟走过了无数风雨

短短几年，自己改变了不少

不知不觉中忘了“自己”究竟是个怎样的人

看看旧相片，企图唤回那些逐渐模糊的记忆

很庆幸回忆过去对我来说是一件快乐的事

旧照片记载了年轻时无知、无惧的自己

学校时无忧无虑，不知天高地厚

刚入社会时如初生之犊，不畏虎

年轻的勇气是值得怀念的，同时也庆幸自己没创出什么大祸

陶醉之于也带了少许的感慨

经验随着成长而增加，人也因经验增加而变得多虑

嗨，岁月不留人，往事只能回味

回味过去固然甜蜜，但还是得接受和珍惜今天的自己

只有这样才会使今天成为三十后值得回忆的“过去”

17 Jan 2009

Things won’t change because you are worried and things won’t remain unchanged because of you. So just let it be. Do whatever you think is the best for NOW. Nevertheless be prepared to face whatever comes tomorrow. The saying “Happy goes lucky” – believe it!

What you been through in 2008 proof the above saying is true. You were down in early 2008 because of work. You were also mad because staffs in Geneva were slow and have the “don’t care” attitude. I remembered you told me about this guy who everything also don’t know. I also remember you told me Geneva was dead quiet in the evening. You sounded depressed. But now looking back, didn’t everything turns up as happy ending? So do waste time worrying and thinking about things that we cannot change or cannot control.

I once came across someone say that human brain cannot remember pain and sorrow. This person joined a South Pole expedition and they failed. They been through cold, hunger and almost lost their lives. But they were rescued and now being interviewed. He said despite all the pains, sorrows, disappointments and despairs, when he woke up healthy the next day, he has forgotten all those negative thoughts. He remembers what he has achieved and the happiness of being back – alive! See, our brain is genius!

You have been through a lot in 2008. Your life changed a lot in 2008. However in your letter, I can see you are proud of yourself for what you have achieved.  I am sure you also enjoyed the journey! The same will happen again next year, and the year after, and the years that follow. Each time, you are a better person! So since the ending is always similar, why live in today in misery?

The economy is uncertain and bad. We cannot change it. We are lucky that we are financially stable and no commitment. We will not starve when we lose our job. We just have to live more wisely and carefully now as things suddenly become very vulnerable. Be ready for change but not to be worried for it.

I don’t mean to give big lecture but just want you to change your mindset and live happily. I am always very proud of you and happy to have such a great friend like you!

p/s: I AM WAITING FOR YOUR SCHOOL... haha...

最近看一电视节目，被采访嘉宾说了一句，觉得特有意思。她说俩人相处不要相敬如宾，这太没意义了；俩人之间不时该有些小矛盾，通过一起解决问题促进彼此了解和感情。但她强调矛盾不能弄大，不然会一发不可收拾。个人同意这说法，但难题和学问就在如何处理矛盾、如何不让小矛盾演变成大问题。

相信这是很多都晓得的道理：一起解决问题能促进沟通、增加了解，从而增进彼此感情。但又有多少人能把握好量度呢？很多时候，小矛盾处理不当，反而变成俩人间的冰河。还有很多时候，小问题没能很好被解决， 留下了后遗症，积少成多，一旦爆发就一发不可收拾！

唉，人与人相处是一门深不可测的学问！又有多少人能得心应手地掌握这学问呢？奉劝还没得道者（包括本人）还是该学习如何多沟通、多交流，减少不必要的猜疑，在问题形成前把他化解，这不但能促进感情也能省掉很多麻烦！